Sometimes it helps to just talk with someone; someone who is not in your immediate circle of family and friends; someone who is professional; someone who won’t impose their belief systems onto you; someone who won’t judge you. This is counselling. Counselling is not how some people may imagine it to be. It is not a forum where you ask someone their advice on how to solve problems and they give it to you. Rather, in counselling, you are encouraged to talk, to get to understand your own problems and work out your own solutions. Professional counsellors have been trained to understand your illness, so they are not going to give you useless or potentially destructive advice. Indeed many counsellors have become so because they have been through similar experiences, and have become inspired to help people such as yourself. Each counsellor has his/her own style. It is important you find one you like and feel comfortable talking to. You may feel it is more appropriate for your situation to engage with a counsellor of a particular gender. You are fully within your right to choose whoever you so wish. You are under no obligation to accept someone if you don’t feel comfortable with them.

If you do find someone who is being successful in helping you, this may be all you need. However, you can rest assured that if she feels you may benefit from other forms of treatment such as cognitive behavioural therapy or hypnotherapy, she will say so.